“Stop crying like a girl” ! The young boy said to his injured friend with a contemptible look.
Did he mean that girls are weak or did he generalize it as a notion that girls cry over petty things? Why is crying considered a sign of feebleness and why are men disgraced for shedding a few tears?
I am a confident and strong girl too but I am not even a little reluctant to admit that there are times when I loose my equanimity and I can’t stop crying even without any genuine reasons; and that there are moments when I break down and don’t feel optimistic to mend back ever again. I have been through days of acute depression and choked in desolation too. So now will the society chastise me for being weak? Does the overflow of my emotions give others the permission to ridicule me as a crying baby?
Trust me, it’s absolutely okay to cry !
No matter if you are a girl or a boy, if you are told to stay strong and hold your tears even when you can’t even breathe, don’t listen to it. It is meaningless to pretend being alright when you are not. It’s okay to scream and pour your heart out. You are allowed to do anything that makes you feel better. Be in your most vulnerable state and feel everything more intensely. Demand extra care and attention and treat yourself with all the affection you deserve. Don’t worry what people might think of you, the concern here is about you and not others. Take a break from work. Eat, sleep and repeat if that’s all you can manage to do. You need to first heal from within, everything else can wait. There is no point in pretending to be strong when you are broken from inside. There is no point in showing people how impregnable you are, even when you are shattered from within and have lost the ability of judgement. Its you and your inner peace that should matter you the most. But be careful not to hurt yourself in the process. Take your own time, relax, de-stress and contemplate.
I often wonder how people expect us to stay strong at a time when we are no where close to sanity. I consider it rather ignorant to stay clam at times of pain and deny myself the consolation of crying. Breaking down is normal but not letting it out can be lethal. Crying is just another human emotion, not specific to any gender. We are all imperfect human beings and it’s okay to have a meltdown. Just do not stay there for too long, cry it out and resume back to normal.
Remember, it’s okay to cry sometimes 🙂